But did you know that the Swinging lifestyle has its own set of etiquette just like in any other social interaction?. Mastering them could get you to take the most exclusive couples to bed and have the best play nights.
So we thought of writing four tried-and-true etiquette lessons to help you minimize your embarrassment and increase your fun.
Respect your partner's boundaries
No matter how excited you are about your adventures together, remember that everyone involved is a human being. Finding out what they like and don't like itself is an exciting part of the whole process. A hard no is a hard no. No, if's, and's or butt's about it.
Vett your prospective partners carefully
Nothing is worse than an awkward sexual experience in the Swinging lifestyle. We always set up a casual meet to get to know our partners before we become intimate with them. Danuthri also prefers this since she has her checklist when vetting her play partners.
Make sure to engage both people when meeting a couple. You want to show that you respect both of them, no matter what naughty thing is running through your mind about one of them (or both of them). If you are at a swinger-only event, you can greet with a cozy hug and a light kiss. In more vanilla settings, you’ll probably want to stick to handshakes.
Be Clean
If you want to have an up-close sexy time, make sure you are well-groomed and clean. Showering and shaving 12 hours ago doesn’t count. Trust me, personal hygiene is a priority of good swingers. If you want better odds of making new sexy swinger friends, pay extra attention to your personal hygiene. Don’t go overboard with perfume or cologne. Not everyone else might like your favorite scent. When in doubt go with unscented products.
We both spend a good amount of time inside the bathroom before a swinging night, keeping things clean and tidy. Danuthri loves when her partner is clean and fully shaven so that when she goes down, it will be a pleasant experience for her and vice versa.
When attending a party
When you start interacting with others in the lifestyle, you will be invited to parties. There are some things you need to look out when attending a free or a paid party.
If you can bring a present for your hosts, please do so. Once you are there, make sure to seek them first. It takes a lot of work to arrange a party, so be thoughtful and bring them a bottle of wine along with your own booze (if it is a BYOB party). It’s hard to say which swinger gift they’d like best, but they’ll appreciate the thought behind the gesture!
Do your best to avoid last-minute no-shows. Be a respectful attendee. Talk to your hosts beforehand and get yourself familiar with their guest rules.
So there you go. These are our top listing when it comes to the swinging lifestyle. Let us know what rules you consider important when swinging in the comments section.
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